Rest In Peace Queenie~

Today morning at 10am, I got a call from mum telling me that one of our dogs, a female German Shepherd has passed away due to sickness and also old age. We were both pouring with tears when mum told me the news. But I know that dad will be the most sad person to lose her, coz he's the one looking after her since the day she arrived at our house. I still remember the day when we went to choose her out of her siblings, and the day when we finally fetch her back to our house. Named her "Queenie" after the previous male German Shepherd who also died of sickness and age is named "King". From young to being an adult, she's always the playful one. And she adores me, always loves to pounce onto me whenever she wants me to give her a stroke. This news really came as a shock coz I never expected it. She was still looking healthy the last time I went back, not knowing that she has grown weaker during this period I didn't go back home coz her illness has worsen. Lucky enough I still have someone in Brunei to call me where I can just cry and tell him everything on the phone, while listening to his soothing voice. Thanks alot dear for the call~  Proves my telepathy has really improved, faster and can transmit signals to a longer distance, even across the sea. =)


Too bad I didn't get the chance to say goodbye to her nicely. Sigh..I'll sooo going to miss her. =(

If you don't trust them.... then your Rosie Red Relationship will never last!!

Trust is one of the most important things in a relationship. I'm sure you've heard that before... but so many people that I have seen in my clinic are in a relationship with a person that they don't trust as far as they could throw!


You want to be in a relationship that is red and pink with love, white with calmness and peace and yellow with happiness and fun. What you DO NOT want is to be blue with sadness, green with jealousy when they talk to another person or black and low because your don't trust your partner.


The word trust can cover so many different areas in a relationship - from infidelity to just keeping your word on the little things.... because you know sometimes it is just the little white lies that can cause huge trust issues between partners.... Because if they didn't tell you the truth about something small and insignificant... then that can cause the subconscious mind to wonder what else they might not have been honest about... and when a person starts to question and their level of trust is jeopardized... then the relationship can get into rocky ground!!


There are many many different reasons why you may have trust issues in your relationship.... It could be that your partner has a dodgy past record when it comes to trust and you are worried that if they can do it to someone else - they could do it to you too!! Or maybe they weren't totally trust worthy at some point in your relationship before - and although they say they have turned over a new leaf - you still have that little niggle of trust worry in your subconscious mind... which can be physically felt as a fear in your belly. Alternatively, it could just be your gut feeling or intuition that makes you worry about how honest and trustworthy they are in the relationship.... You see, there are so many ways that a lack of trust can enter into a relationship.


Have you ever thought about the option that maybe they are in fact trustworthy and its you that has the trust problem?! It could be because you have been hurt in the past by being lied or cheated on.... And because of that, you have difficulty in trusting your new partner. Now... if that's the case - you really need to take a step back and reevaluate your thoughts and actions before your good relationship goes down the swanny! If your new partner has no reason not to be trusted and they are getting the brunt of your trust issues due to your previous relationship or maybe even family issues... then perhaps its something you need to look at more closely and deal with before Mr or Ms new-relationship-person, feels un-trusted, questioned and eventually unloved for no good reason of their own. Its not fair, and I'm sure you wouldn't like to be treated a certain way because of something there Ex partner had done?!?!


Think about it for a moment - and I mean really think about it.... I'm sure that deep down inside your mind you know whether it is your own personal trust issues from your own past experiences or whether it is them that is causing the breakdown of trust in your current relationship? Its very very important to be honest with yourself in this case - because if it is stemming from you, and your partner really isn't the cause of the mistrust issues in the relationship - then its something you have to deal with as soon as possible before you loose them, and if that happens... whoever or whatever caused you to feel these trust problems originally... will STILL be in control of your life and how you feel. You need to be in control of your self and current life situation.


Trust. The key to a successful relationship. If you have any niggle issues with trust in your relationship... talk them out. Sit down and have a real conversation and let your partner know and understand how you are feeling. If your feelings are justified and the person you are with is truly not trustworthy, if you have caught them lying or cheating on you - get out of the relationship - because baby... it ain't ever gonna work without full and complete trust.


The bottom line is - if you don't have an even level of trust between each other - neither of you will ever be happy!!

Birthstone 生辰石

生辰石据说同圣经中的十二基石、胸甲十二颗宝石、伊斯兰的十二天使和天体十二宫的传说有关。久而久之，已成为一种佩戴诞生月宝石的习俗。

九月生辰石：蓝宝石（Sapphire）

蓝宝石——六方晶系 硬度：9

蓝宝石是刚玉的一种，而那些具有宝石特性的非红色刚玉都是蓝宝石，所以它会展现多种色调，但以清澈的深蓝色宝石最为珍贵。自中世纪以来，它便象征天国的宁静，可使佩戴者平静，亲善，并能抑制邪恶不洁的意念。

代表星座：天秤座（9月23日～10月23日）


十一月生辰石：托帕石（Topaz）

托帕石——斜方晶系 ；硬度： 8

托帕石又名黄玉。有各种颜色的品种以黄色及粉红色最贵重，还有蓝色和绿色的品种。[黄玉]这个名称源自梵语的[tapus]，意思是火彩。传说将黄玉镶在金子中，然后戴在颈项上，便可驱除凶兆，治疗弱视并平息怒气。

代表星座：射手座（11月23日～12月21日）


Although some gemstones are more identifiable than others, topaz and sapphire share many physical characteristics that make them difficult for the untrained eye to tell apart. Their similarities in color varieties, hardness and luster are comparable, but there are also individual qualities of each stone that distinguish them from one another. With a few observations and tests, it's possible to tell the difference between the two.


Identification


1 Examine the color of the stone. Topaz varieties occur most commonly in golden brown to yellow tones but also in orange, red, blue, green and pink. The most popular sapphire variety is the blue sapphire, but it can occur in almost any color (except red, which is classified as a ruby.)

2 Observe the lustre, or shine, of the gemstone. Sapphires can have a slightly higher lustre as the result of a higher refractive index, but because the two are so similar it would be best to use a refractometer to measure these qualities. A refractometer measures the amount of light that is bent when passing through a material. A topaz has a refractive index of approximately 1.61-1.64, while a sapphire measures around 1.76-1.78.

3 Test the hardness of the stone. There are testing kits that examine the hardness of the stone on the Mohs scale, which is used by gemologists. The scale ranges from 1 (talc) to 10 (diamond). A topaz ranks at an 8 on the Mohs, while sapphire is a 9. The kit will usually come with different specimens or minerals that are used to scratch the gemstone, which will allow you to identify where the gemstone lies on the hardness scale.

4 Consult a professional jeweler or gemologist. If you're still in doubt after these tests and observations, find a reliable and qualified professional to examine your stone. There can be a great difference in value between topaz and sapphire gemstones, so it's important to find out before you consider buying or selling.

My back-to-single week. Lovely? Not really.

Its Deepavali one-week holiday for us medic students. But unlike others, I chose to stay back here in hostel, even though Mic also went back to Brunei. Oh well, more time spent on my own then, doing things that I like, with more freedom I should say. But sure ain't that fun knowing that I'm no longer alone, not superficially but as I have Mic always there in my heart. Lols.


Now insomnia again. But this is intentionally. Purposely made myself pure black coffee with no sugar and no creamer to make myself awake whole night. Studying bits here and there while watching movies when I don't feel like it. Roomie's not around too. And the trip to the library tomorrow morning as planned? I kind of doubt it that I would be able to wake up early and move my butt all the way to the library (although its just down the hill). May want to delay it I guess. But then, despite all those lame excuses, guess I just need more perseverance. Would like to brush up my 1st year stuffs as well as promised to myself before the holiday starts. Wouldn't want to leave it till last minute. Procrastination should not dominate over all. My brain wouldn't be able to function well by then with the amount of words I need to put in. =S


I miss that guy who is over thousand of miles away from me. Across the sea. But love is not measured by distance as everyone quoted. And I truly believe that quotation. =)  Phone calls, no. But there're always emails, which is why I should be thankful we have the creation of Internet, used to connect each other no matter how far they are apart. =)  I'm just looking forward to Saturday, where he'll be back and will then be appearing within my sight. *BIG smileys*






I just miss him sooooo much~