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我们已经是谈不起恋爱的80后

一定要爱你 安祈尔

Music Video of Angela Ching ( Miss Malaysia Tourism International 2008 ) in her latest album <一定要爱你>

不能为她穿上 ‘嫁衣’ 请别脱她的 ‘内衣’..

“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱 那么这个男人是真的爱她...”
偶尔和朋友闲谈，谈到爱 谈到性，
他说他在网上看到这样一句话，“拥抱 睡觉 不做爱”。
我说 “如果是你，你能做到吗？”， 他说 “ 能”，
我，笑怎么能，真的能吗？
如果能，他就不会和别人刚恋爱就上床，刚上床就分手了，呵呵……

他告诉我世界上没有爱情，爱只不过是对依恋和习惯的一种修饰 因为寂寞才恋爱！
不聊了，话题结束，有些事是不适宜深聊下去的。
回到家，却还一直想着这句话，
我问妈妈“一个人在一切条件都具备的情况下，
可能和自己心爱的人‘拥抱 睡觉 不做爱吗？’”
妈说：“能”，我问：“有可能控制得住吗，那他还算男人吗?!”
时间突然停滞了几秒，妈妈转过头和我说 “...那才是真男人...”


想到了一篇文章……
和最爱的人在一起一定要做的十件事！
其中有一条就是 : 抱着她睡觉,但什么也不做！




什么是真爱?
爱不是性 不是欲 不是占有
如果你真的爱她，你想的不是怎么去占有她的身体，
而是会很小心翼翼的保护她，不让她受一点伤害，
哪怕是自己可能给的，也不可以！

只有出于真爱，你才能真正的设身处地的为她着想。
你才会在做每件事情前考虑到这么做会给她带来什么后果，
而不是简单的想着快感,想着占有，想着满足。




读了一篇散文，觉得有一段写的特别美 ：
"还记得那年暑假的一个晚上，我们坐在小镇河边的公园里，
傻傻的聊到凌晨3点，现在想起来心里总觉得那时侯特别美好，
在那棵桃树下，雨淅沥沥的下着，我们牵着手，我的手心里全是汗水，
但我舍不得放开，我想就这样一直牵下去，雨水淋湿了你的衬衫，
不经意间我隐约看见你湿透的胸口在夜色中象树上含苞欲放的桃花一样，
那时候我真想抱紧你，深深的吻着你，但是我没敢，是我没有勇气，
但我并没有后悔，因为那些美好的情节，
那段朦胧的初恋将永远永远地印在我的心上" ... ...


看到这里你的心中是否也有涌起一丝丝悸动？
是否也想到了一些事？是否也想起了某个人？我相信真爱，但我只相信一次！
任何人都是这样，心底总有一个永远也忘不了的她，那些清涩的故事,那些傻傻的举动……
一旦那份至珍的感情结束了，人就变了，变的无所谓了，
变的世俗了，变的圆滑了，变的不再相信什么狗屁爱情了，
你还会像对待初恋女友那样，小心翼翼的保护着她的第一次吗？！

一次次的控制着自己挑战自己的自制力吗?
不会的，有那个必要吗?
甩了钱，一夜情有的是，做爱其实是件很廉价的事情，
如果你把它的实质只当一种情感的发泄，那它比你给的价钱更廉价，一分钱都不值！
如果你不爱她，大可不用考虑那么多，拍拍屁股走人呗，管她那么多，
愿意负责任，我负，不愿意负，我走人 。
没有处男膜吧！呵呵……反正我不损失什么。
女人就是衣服，随便换，天凉快的时候，我都可以不穿，有了钱有了权还怕没女人吗？
如果一个男人这样想了，是的，也许他可以拥有一切，但是----却永远无法拥有真爱了……
和每个人一样，也一定有一个女人住在他内心最深处，
只不过却也只能住在他自己的回忆中了，坐在一堆钱上的回忆中了……



真爱来的不容易
我们还年轻有些事情不是我们该享受的，我们也承担不起请珍惜，爱护身边的她
我们还年轻，学生时代的爱情相对于物欲横流的复杂社会是最真最纯的了。
如果你真的拥有了一份真爱，爱是寂寞撒的谎。
当你们相爱时，一定慢一点上床，别以为脱了裤子就是爱！
如果这样都是爱，那么扣上皮带也就该拜拜。
做爱容易说爱难~！ 每个人都有初恋，初恋结婚成功率仅为千分之三！

当下大多男人会在婚前有过性行为，然而和你发生关系的女孩子成为你的新娘了吗？
没有？！
冲动的惩罚更多的来自于女孩子，怀孕、流产、痛苦、伤心......
当你拥着心爱的女孩子的时候，你有没有想过，当有一天你离开她的时候，你还能坦然的告诉自己，我曾经是爱她的，她是完整的。我给了她完整的爱？！
当你拥着初恋心爱的女孩儿的时候，望着眼前美丽的胴体，你有没有想过，当有一天你结婚的时候，你心爱的女孩子告诉你，曾经她有过……
你会坦然的面对她，告诉她，没关系，你依然是我今生最美的新娘？！

而当你想起曾经的你的她的时候，你是那么爱她，而你没能给她穿上嫁衣，你却得到了女孩儿最珍贵的东西，你能没有一丝愧疚吗？



如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易解开你心爱女孩儿的衣服，
如果你真心爱着她，请不要轻易忘了你曾经的承诺！
如果你真心爱着她，请给她安全的臂弯，给她依靠！
如果你真心爱着她，请善待你们的每一天，让她幸福，让你们开心。



如果有一天，你将独自迎来日出和日落；
如果有一天，你的视线里再也找不到曾经的她的影子。
你却依然可以在你的天空里祝福远方的她过得幸福！
因为，你给了她完整的爱！！！！





有句话：如果你不能给她穿上嫁衣，请停下脱她衣服的手 ...

无所谓

男孩儿：“对不起……”
女孩儿：“无所谓，你没什么对不起我的。”

键盘敲出最后这句话，女孩儿失声痛哭。
爱上他是女孩儿没有想到的事情，她以为自己不会爱上任何人。
可最后还是敌不过男孩儿的温柔，陷了进去。

一开始的爱情跟所有的爱情剧一样，甜言蜜语、电话短信、关怀体谅、担心紧张……
日子过的很是甜蜜。
都说恋爱中的女人智商为零。
但女孩儿不同，她不相信那些所谓的承诺，甚至排斥那些不切实际的想法。
沉着冷静是女孩儿最大的优点，同时也成了她最大的弱点。
女孩儿爱说一句话，那就是：无所谓。
说这句话的时候，女孩儿看起来好像对什么都不在乎，甚至让人觉得她很冰很冷。
但却忽略了她眼底刻意隐藏的东西。
跟男孩儿在一起，女孩儿不爱说话，只是静静地看着男孩儿，微笑着听他讲话。
偶尔的撒娇任性，野蛮无理，对女孩儿来说都是因为太依赖。
男孩儿告诉女孩儿他很爱她，离不开她。
女孩儿笑着不语。

在朋友眼里男孩儿很幸运，因为他拥有女孩儿。
在朋友眼里女孩儿很幸福，因为她遇到了男孩儿。
男孩儿的温柔、体贴，女孩儿的善良、可爱，让所有人都羡慕。
他们说：这是一出爱情的童话！
于是，像所有爱情一样，男孩儿许下了承诺：永远爱你……
这一次女孩儿说了一句话：无所谓永远不永远，你做不到。
暗淡的灯光下，男孩儿欲言又止。
日子平淡的过着……

有一段时间，女孩儿没有男孩儿的消息，没有电话，没有短信，像是凭空消失了一般。
后来男孩儿解释说：太忙了，没时间。
女孩儿失落的说：“无所谓，工作要紧。”
接下来的日子里，男孩儿跟女孩儿在一起的时候不爱说话了，总是发呆的望着手机。
直觉告诉女孩儿，有些东西改变了。
无意中女孩儿发现男孩儿的手机里多了一个陌生的号码，通话记录中全是这一串数字。
男孩儿的Q上，也明显的多了一个女孩子。
男孩儿解释说：“她是我认识的一个朋友，别生气。”
女孩儿撇开眼睛说：“无所谓，我不介意。”
之后，男孩儿又很久没有跟女孩儿联系。

女孩儿身体不好，得了重病，病痛折磨的她无法入睡。
她很想男孩儿陪着她，安慰她，可是……她又心疼他。
生日那晚，女孩儿拨通了男孩儿的电话号码，手机中传来忙音，接着便是关机了。
女孩儿的心跌到了谷底，彻夜未眠，一早被发现昏倒在窗边，送进了医院。
医生的一纸诊断书，让所有人不敢置信--骨癌晚期……
眼泪倔强的滑下脸庞，女孩儿默默地哭泣。
不是因为病痛，而是男孩儿依然没有与她联系。
忧伤的眼神刺痛了所有人，整个病房充斥着无奈与心酸。
强忍着疼，女孩儿安慰所有人：“无所谓啦，习惯了，别伤心。”
女孩儿早就知道自己的病，只是没有说出来，她不想让大家担心，特别是男孩儿。

女孩儿拒绝治疗，回家去了。
这一切，所有人都应女孩儿的要求，没有告诉男孩儿。
无聊中女孩儿打开电脑上了男孩儿的Q，刚一上线，那个陌生的头像就在跳动。
打开，一段文字跳出，瞬间，女孩儿泪流满面。
“亲爱的，我想你了！一晚上没听到你的声音了，好想你。亲爱的，爱你，看到后给我电话哦。……”
颤抖着双手，女孩儿关掉了电脑，脑子里一片空白。
她拼命告诉自己：无所谓，一切都是误会，要信任他。
眼泪止不住的流，这一次，女孩儿自己也不相信自己会真的无所谓。
她决定放开他，结束这段感情，所有的疼痛自己来受。
做下决定，女孩儿又一次昏倒了……

最后的爱情，童话终究还是一出悲剧，两人分手了。
男孩儿觉得对不起女孩儿，一直沉默着。
女孩儿一直安慰他说：无所谓。

男孩儿生日的前一天，女孩儿因病去世了。
而男孩儿在自己生日那天终于知道了这件事。
所有人都骂他不懂珍惜；
所有人都埋怨他移情别恋；
所有人都指责他欺骗女孩儿……
男孩儿拿着女孩儿最后写下的信哭了。

女孩儿在信里说：
我知道自己活不长了，想要好好珍惜有你的日子，可是你却不在我身边。
我原谅你喜欢上了别人，因为爱情是自由的。
我原谅你对我的忽视，因为爱情需要宽容。
我原谅你忘记我的生日，因为爱情需要体谅。
我原谅你的所有的错，因为我爱你。
我知道当初我的那句‘你做不到’伤到了你的心，其实我知道我们的爱情走不远，只是不知道这么快结束。
我曾经说的‘无所谓’，其实都是在掩饰内心的孤独与寂寞，只是你未曾注意过。
很在意你，在意到让我害怕，所以找个借口让自己不陷下去。
所有的“无所谓”都是因为太在乎，你可曾知道？
即使分手，也还是会想起你的好。
这些全都在我的意料之外，但不后悔。
我走了，谢谢你，谢谢你曾经带给我的感动，谢谢！
你的生日快到了，提前说声“生日快乐”！
没有再见了，愿君保重！祝福你！

男孩儿的眼泪留了出来，他不知道原来女孩儿深爱着自己。
原来他伤害了她。
原来他忽视了女孩儿的脆弱与孤寂。
原来他不懂珍惜。
朋友告诉男孩儿，分手后，女孩儿基本上是在昏迷中度过的。
每日每夜都在与病魔斗争，她多么希望男孩儿在她身边，却又不想让他知道。
男孩儿忽然好恨自己，恨这一切，恨他无力挽回。
想起女儿甜美的笑容，忆起她曾经的好，男孩儿无力的望着天空，眼泪一滴一滴流着。
“对不起……”


故事发生的很平凡，很普通。
无非就是让我们要懂得珍惜。
“男子薄情，女子多情”--这话的对与错，似乎无多大意义了。
“无所谓”，看似简单的三个字，却隐藏了好多难以让人发现的东西。
那种心理……无法言语……
明明很在乎，明明心很痛，却要装作无所谓。
需要多大的承受力啊。
也许伪装才能看清一切，伪装才能保护自己。
说出一句“无所谓”需要很大的勇气。
隐藏的脆弱，掩埋的孤寂，几人能看清？也许真的“无所谓”




无所谓的心酸，无所谓的孤寂，无所谓的人生，因为太“所谓”而“无所谓”。
“无所谓”--一种无法言语的痛！

机会……

有些人有很多机会见的，却总找借口推脱，想见的时候，已经没机会了。
有些话有很多机会说的，却想着以后再说，要说的时候，已经没机会了。
有些事有很多机会做的，却一天一天推迟，想做的时候却发现没机会了。
有些爱给了你很多机会，却不在意没在乎，想重视的时候已经没机会爱了。



人生有时候，总是很讽刺。
一转身可能就是一世。
说好永远的，不知怎么就散了。
最后自己想来想去竟然也搞不清当初是什么原因分开彼此的。

然后，你忽然醒悟，感情原来是这么脆弱的。
经得起风雨，却经不起平凡；
风雨同船，天晴便各自散了。
也许只是赌气，也许只是因为小小的事。
幻想着和好的甜蜜，或重逢时的拥抱，
那个时候会是边流泪边捶打对方，还傻笑着。
该是多美的画面。
没想到的是，一别竟是一辈子了。

于是，各有各的生活，各自爱着别的人。
曾经相爱，现在已互不相干。
即使在同一个小小的城市，也不曾再相逢。
某一天某一刻，走在同一条街，也看不见对方。
先是感叹，后来是无奈。

也许你很幸福，因为找到另一个适合自己的人。
也许你不幸福，因为可能你这一生就只有那个人真正用心在你身上。
很久很久，没有对方的消息，也不再想起这个人，也是不想再想起



珍惜身边所有的一切事物！
生活不是电影，错过了就是失去了、没有了，不可能像电影里一样有重新再来一次的机会,
或许一次的错过就会让我们悔恨终身……





世界上最心痛的感觉，
不是失恋，
而是我把心给你的时候，
你却在欺骗我..

王力宏 - 柴米油盐酱醋茶

作词：徐若瑄 作曲：王力宏

小时候 你想要什么
我要一台大大蓝色的飞机
带我环游世界 到地球每一个角落
在蓝天白云中穿梭

而长大以后 我想要什么
我要一台小小红色答录机
和你一起录下 喂 我们现在不在家
蓝色变成红色因为你

柴米油盐酱醋茶
一点一滴都是幸福在发芽
月儿弯弯爱的傻
有了你什么都不差

小时候 你想要什么
我要一台大大蓝色的飞机
带我环游世界 到地球每一个角落
在蓝天白云中穿梭

喔 长大以后 我想要什么
我要一台小小红色答录机
和你一起录下 喂 我们现在不在家
蓝色变成红色因为你

给你快乐无论白天黑夜
握紧双手就算刮风下雨
我就是要你 要你待在我身边
保护你直到永远

月儿弯弯爱的傻
没有一个理由 活的那么复杂
有了你什么都不差

Breakdown. Almost.

Tired. Both physically AND mentally. And I'm still stuck with PBL here. This morning woke up very early for hospital attachment, before the sun has even emerged from behind those mountains, which the east is just where my windows are facing. @_@ The best thing is I get to learn again from today's session, and also had lunch at a place in Pantai Indah, a restaurant named Steven's, which is quite a nice change from the boring food we always get around campus here. Food is nice too! Then classes with Dr Ogunbanjo. Supposedly to have Q&A session with Dr Aishah but it was postponed to next Wed. Again. Though its a good thing, coz it means we can have more time to study on our own and not having classes right till 6pm. I'll probably just collapse in class. Urgh! Tomorrow morning have to wake up early again for medical museum session. Everyone would be having blurry eyes looking at microscopes le. Lols. And clinical session for me tomorrow afternoon. Double urgh!

3rd M.A is coming up on next Monday!!! =S

劉若英- 我们没有在一起

作词：黄婷 作曲：陈韦伶

你一直说的那个公园已经拆了
还记得荡著秋千日子就飞起来
漫漫的下午阳光都在脸上撒野
你那傻气 我真是想念

那时候小小的你还没学会叹气
谁又会想到他们现在喊我女王
你哈哈笑的样子倒是一点没变
时间走了 谁还在等呢

这杯咖啡忘了加糖
真不是我那麼伤感
世界太复杂 你说单纯很难
我当然都明白

可是呀只有你曾陪我在最初的地方
只有你才能了解我要的梦从来不大
我们没有在一起至少还像情侣一样
我痛的疯的伤的在你面前哭得最惨

我知道你也不能带我回到那个地方
你说你现在很好而且喜欢回忆很长
我们没有在一起至少还像家人一样
总是远远关心远远分享

那条路走呀走呀走呀总要回家
两只手握著晃呀晃呀舍不得放
你不知道吧后来后来我都在想
跟你走吧 管它去哪呀

这杯咖啡忘了加糖
真不是我那麼伤感
世界太复杂 你说单纯很难
我当然都明白

可是呀只有你曾陪我在最初的地方
只有你才能了解我要的梦从来不大
我们没有在一起至少还像情侣一样
我痛的疯的伤的在你面前哭得最惨

我知道你也不能带我回到那个地方
你说你现在很好而且喜欢回忆很长
我们没有在一起至少还像家人一样
总是远远关心远远分享

可是呀只有你曾陪我在最初的地方
只有你才能了解我要的梦从来不大
我们没有在一起至少还像情侣一样
我痛的疯的伤的在你面前哭得最惨

我知道你也不能带我回到那个地方
你说你现在很好而且喜欢回忆很长
我们没有在一起至少还像家人一样
总是远远关心远远分享

我们没有在一起至少还像朋友一样
你远远的关心 其实更长

Boring weekend. With disappointment.

Okaaaayyyy...the plans of going on an outing is off!! Not blaming anyone though. But seriously, I hate my plans being blown off. And I even hate disappointment. With all those discussions on where to go and suddenly its all being called off. If its the crazy, still-single me once I've been, I would have just hopped onto the bus and go whichever shopping mall I wanted to and just walk around and eat good food without needing to care about any others, especially when I'm not in a good mood. Nice. Just freecare. OK, that would be a reckless thought (though its not like I haven't done such a thing before), but the consequences would be bad coz normally I wouldn't have told anyone where I went. Sure, I can do so with others who wanted to go. But the main point is, I just want to spend time with you on outings, just something special, and not just on books and classes and stuffs we do together each and everyday.
Next time, don't ask for my opinion. And I'll never suggest any outing anymore. Just decide whatever you want and tell me the final decision. I'm sick of getting more and more disappointments.
Not specifically pissed at you. Today is just not my day.

Oh well, I just have to spend my weekend studying on what has been my target of the week and also to finish off the materials for the student seminar on contraceptives PLUS the stupid report about the visit to the water sewage today that we need to hand-in next week, freaking thing is, it needs to be a scientific report! Just tell me, we're no engineers, and I certainly don't know how we can relate anything scientific to the visit we had today. Its totally don't have any connection with medicine! Duh~ Screw that baldy old man..try writing one yourself then!

You may dislike the idea of me getting involved in the student seminar where seriously I don't have to do so. But sometimes, you just don't understand that I may have something I want to try out, and fulfil my responsibilities that I've been appointed for. Not that I'm doing anything extra just to please others. I have my own principles as well. You seriously don't see me stopping you doing things that you like. All I want is someone to support me and not stop me from doing anything although I know you think of what is the best for me, and I really appreciate that. I'd rather not be treated like a baby and do whatever that I missed out. Challenges are out there everywhere. And you will not hear a word of complaint from me. PERIOD.

I hate putting on a mask in front of everyone today. Just sooooo not my day.

Just prove it!

If you are afraid
that I ever doubt your actions, or even your feelings,
convince me,
whatever my actions have been right all along,
and its all being done without any regrets.
And that I haven't done them for nothing.
And that I've chosen the right person.
Just show to others that I'm right,
and they're wrong about you.

Just don't let me down. Please.

End of a busy week...once more

Phew..tomorrow's Friday. Except for a class that is being postponed from today due to some misunderstanding AND a visit to the water sewage plant in Putrajaya PLUS badminton session with my friends at the condo tomorrow, everything's going on well. I especially like hospital attachments although its really very tiring. But at least we get to learn something, or I should say, a lot, especially in Pudu Specialist Centre. A real big thanks to Dr Wong who spent his time bringing us around, letting us having hands-on the patients, and even explaining to us about the patients' conditions, which that really helps in our writing the log book for each hospital visit. And probably this Saturday we might be going to the shopping malls!! It'll either be Midvalley or Berjaya Times Square, really depend on others. I'm just happy that we finally can at least spend some leisure time leaving the books behind our backs and de-stress a bit, as I put it. Haha. Sure hope that Jee Wei can recover sooner and join us lor. =) Its been too long since we went out together..as in out of the campus area..lols =p (which does not include those school visits which previously we went to this water treatment plant..urgh!)







Target of this week: Embryology of fetal and placenta + fertilisation and implantation AND pathology of the female genital system. @_@ Btw, 3rd M.A's coming up on the following Monday after the next! I'm so gonna have a hard week again next week with more lack of sleep. *dash underscore dash*

Wonderful Gift from God

"Aww....That's soooo cuteeeeeee~!!!!" And that's exactly what everyone says when we passed by that glass window of a room.

Today when we had weekly hospital attachment in Pudu Specialist Centre, at one of the wards, we managed to see a newborn baby in a crib, sleeping peacefully. It was only born on Monday, 12th of July. It hits me more to realise how wonderful it is and grateful to be born into this world although I knew about this fact long way back. Especially with such loving parents, siblings, having the chance to know friends that some may not be with you for the entire of your life but a few may be with you forever, and also to love and be loved by someone. It just give me a warm feeling creeping up my skin by looking at the baby. And more of the warm feeling when I looked at the baby the second time together with Michael. =) And Michael said something when he looked at the baby, the thing that is just what is on my mind, "The baby is so beautiful."

Fishy was telling me that day on MSN that its better if I don't dependent too much on Mic. But seriously, we're not exactly dependent on each other. Its only the secure feeling he's giving me more and more that made me stick to him. And honestly, I love that feeling. =) Really appreciate that God made this guy and let him be born to this world, come to UCSI to study medicine and be my classmate even though it meant me to repeat my year. And I'll cherish this forever without any regrets.

Lovely memories....of UCSI Medic classmates

Really flu-sick..or love-sick?

*SNIFFS* My nose is irritating me now. Sneezed a few times just now. Cleared it. Had my medication 4 hours ago. Slept for 4 hours just now. Woke up coz of the heat and also of a disturbed sleep where I scratched myself the whole time. Guess must be due to the heat. Argh~! Even threw down my 2nd pillow to the floor subconsciously during my sleep. It must be extra, extremely hot. And what aggravates my irritation is the stupid nose of mine. I hate falling sick! =( Especially when there's assessment coming up on Monday. I just don't feel ok now. No studying mood as well although I need repetitive studying. Ish~!! Reproductive system. Mic's right. Going for hospital attachment is just so infectious. Especially going to Hospital Gombak where we visited the 3rd class wards. @_@

At the same time, I just miss him so so so much. Sigh. True enough. I would still prefer the life back then where he still stays in the hostel. But then, even with all the complaints, I still think its better for him to have more freedom. Or I should mean OUR freedom. Though less time together, but that doesn't mean any less in our feelings for each other. =) Just now really have the strong urge to just pack up (though I really did!) and walk to his unit just to see him no matter how late it is. But then, due to all the factors and I hate putting him into a guilty situation, I just have to hold back and wait till morning to see him in school where we would be studying together. *smiles*



Sweet dreams, my dear. =)

Behave and Respect your Partner better than your best friend!

This is something that if you think about consciously for a moment or two – you will realise that a lot – if not most people treat their partner with less respect than they would a good friend. What do I mean by that – well think about it – if your friend does something silly – acts in a stupid way or says something you don’t agree with – you would usually just laugh it off? But if your partner does something along the same lines – a lot of people would jump down their throat - belittle them, nag, tell people what they did and probably not allow them to forget it for a very very long time! You see where I’m going here? Couples are mean to each other and that shouldn’t be the case. They SHOULD, like I said, behave better towards each other than they do with their friends…. Because at the end of the day – your partner should really be your best friend (as well as your love)!

Now – if you would refer to someone else as your best friend over your partner? Then what’s going on in that subconscious mind of yours? Why would someone other than your partner be your best friend? Is it because you need to have a best-friend of the opposite sex? Or if your partner is the same sex as you – do you need a bf as the opposite sex?! You know what… I used to think like that! I did!! I thought that my best-friend had to be separate from my boyfriend. I was wrong back then – because when you are really comfortable and happy and content with your partner – your partner will be it all rolled into one! The full package!! =)

Personally I would be of the opinion now – that one should behave better towards their partner than anyone else they know. They should respect them, praise them, complement them on achievements, encourage their goals, motivate them and basically just treat them as individual adults who you are lucky to have as a part of your life. To be honest – I think if you don’t feel lucky to have found your significant other, or don’t agree with treating them in the best possible way – then maybe you need to reassess your values and the relationship?!

Why not have a look around at the couples you know. Observe them. See how they interact. How they behave and treat each other. Many will treat each other like children – nit-picking, nagging, arguing and belittling each other. I bet they wouldn’t be that way with their friend – so isn’t it a wonder why they are like that with the person that is supposed to mean the world to them? Now look at the other couples, (sadly the minority) who treat each other with the up-most respect. They are the inspiration in today’s relationship society. They are the ones to take tips from…. They are the ones who get my respect and who inspire me to be the best I can be in my relationship.

So now – I say to you – take what you can from this – think about what I have said consciously – and if you have, in the past, not treated your partner with the respect you know in your heart they deserve – then make a change today… and I bet your relationship will extend leaps and bounds above where you are today!!

Respect each other…

Westlife - Shadows

[Lyrics: Westlife - Shadows in 2009 album Where We Are]
Mornings after
Still lingers
Just waking up
I see a shadow of you
Making breakfast for two
I go driving
Past our place and
I see this girl walk by
I smell her perfume
For a moment I wish it was you
I’m not gonna tell ya
I’m not gonna say that I’m okay, no
I’m tryin’ to get over
I’m tryin’ to get far away from our mistakes

Chorus:
But I see shadows
Everywhere that I go
It’s you, reminding me
Of how we were
Of how it was

I see shadows
Everywhere they follow
It’s you and memories
Of how we loved
I’ve had enough of your shadows


Four months gone
I can’t feel you
I don’t understand it
Where did you go?
I hate that you’re all that I know
I’m not gonna tell ya
I’m not gonna say that I’m okay, no
I’m tryin to get over
I’m tryin’ to get far away from our mistakes


Chorus:
You couldn’t love me
So why won’t you leave me
Shadows
Alone is the only place I want to be
I see shadows
Everywhere that I go
It’s you, reminding me
Of how to love
I’ve had enough
I see shadows
Everywhere they follow
It’s you, the memories
Of how we loved
I’ve had enough
Your shadows
It’s you, the memories
Of how we loved
I’ve had enough of your shadows
Your shadows

女朋友♥老婆不同の地方

♥女朋友
半夜会找你诉苦，不耐烦的话会控告你“重色轻友”
♥老婆
半夜看你在打游戏会生气的骂你

♥女朋友
她会找你出去玩，然后敲诈你请客吃饭
♥老婆
她会担心你这个月的生活费能不能坚持到最后，出去吃饭的时候不舍得吃太贵的东西

♥女朋友
在你生病时，会发个短消息安慰你，然后自己出去玩
♥老婆
在你生病时，她会陪在你身边，唠叨着你按时吃药，多喝水

♥女朋友
她无所谓你的好坏，你的一切缺点她都可以容忍，因为不在意
♥老婆
她会对你这个不满意，对你那个看不顺眼，因为你是她最爱的人，所以希望你越来越棒

♥女朋友
她什么事情都会支持着你，只要你高兴
♥老婆
她会站在你的角度考虑得失，但你会觉得她很小气

♥女朋友
她会说和你在一起很快乐
♥老婆
她希望让你感到幸福和快乐

♥女朋友
她不在意你的生活细节，只要你和她出门的时候穿的干净就可以
♥老婆
她会注意你的一举一动，关心你床底下、椅子上有多少双袜子没有洗

♥女朋友
她会要你陪她吃饭，逛街，看电影
♥老婆
她也会要你陪她吃饭，逛街，看电影，可她不介意是什么餐馆

♥女朋友
她不在意你去做什么，和什么人交往
♥老婆
她很在意你做什么，和什么人交往，特别是和别的女孩子交往。甚至会吃醋发脾气

♥女朋友
她只有想到现在
♥老婆
她已经规划将来，想往着你们的幸福

all we need is a little LOVE

Immature love says ''I love u becoz i need U.''

Mature love says ''I need u becoz i love U.''

-Quoted by Erich Fromm-

I love you, for no reason.
Coz I love everything about you.

I care for you
Not because I wanted something in return.
Coz I wanted to give all my love to you, no matter what.
You are already a family member of mine.
And you've done enough for me by keeping me by your side.

Thank you for everything.

All I hope is the sense of secure,
and the word of promise from you.


Just promise me that we will be together.
Always. Forever.

Busy week

Tuesday, 6 July:
Had junior orientation where we arranged Amazing Race-like games for the juniors. 7 stations, and we are more like torturing the juniors. Hehe. But it was real fun arranging the games for the juniors together with Jee Wei and Mic, and also blurry Dwayne. =) Those juniors are really going to hate remember us for life. Bler. Juniors this year are not bad, but some really does not give me a good impression, especially I feel insulted as all of them don't even realise that I'm their senior. *dash underscore dash* Maybe I don't look like one as my clothes are mostly semi-formal. Plus I don't exactly be friendly to them, as in volunteerily talk to them like others do. And also maybe I'm always stuck to the most handsome guy in class, and that made others jealous of me, or maybe also must be wondering whether we're in a relationship or not. *blush* *muka tembok* Lols.

Wednesday, 7 July:
Had a whole day class from 8.30am straight down to 3pm. But didn't get to meet up with XinYu, Ah Ong and Jia Yee as planned. =( Stupid Modular Assessment II which is going to be on next Monday! But preparation this time is going on quite well. Do hope that I can do alot better than the previous assessment.

Thursday, 8 July:
Had hospital attachment as what we have every Thursday. This time is to Hospital Gombak again. Met few patients with Tuberculosis, plus one with a broken leg, one with asthma and one with cataract. Tired enough already, and yet spent one hour just to look for a parking space outside campus after failing to find one inside the campus. @_@ Had 2 classes also after that. Even more tired now even though slept 4hours only yesterday.

Tomorrow, PBL in the morning and Clinical Skills session in the afternoon. No more classes. And the good news is, this time's MA does NOT include pathology of female reproductive system!! WoOhOo~!!! Anatomy + Physiology has already given me enough headache le.

Habit can't be changed, but HAVE to change.

Insomnia again. While my dear roommate's peacefully snoozing behind me while I'm stuck in front of the com. Guess I miss the presence of that someone beside me when I'm sleeping. Soundest proof? I didn't actually have a great sleep last night. Guess I have moaned in my sleep and also toss and turn here and there. @_@ Today also. Guess I too missed the naggin of someone asking me to sleep early la. My eyes and my brain just refused to turn off after the busy day whole day with junior orientation and PBL in the morning. Somemore, in 5 more hours time, I'll be having medical museum session, with more classes coming up in the afternoon. Plus, best thing is, XinYu, Ah Ong and Jia Yee would be coming down from Bangsar, purposely, to Cheras pasar malam here to meet up with me. The deal is, I've to pay for their expenses tomorrow. =S Broke liao~ *sobz* Now just hope that dear Mic would accompany me along lor..since those mouth-watering gals just wanna look at "en dao" guys wor *eyes rolling* (Oops..!! >.<)

Sure looking forward to meeting up with them since we didn't see each other for like thousand years ago. First thing I'm gonna get strangled by those girls first. *OopS!*



Even more looking forward to school now like what he says, just to see him. *blush*